Don’t we all need help, some time? I know I do. And for some reason, the song “Help!” came into my mind this evening. (And no, thank you, I am doing well… no help needed at the moment!)
Perhaps predictably, given that I grew up in the 1960s and was the youngest of five siblings, I heard a lot of The Beatles’ music in my childhood home. I mentioned in my post on “Here Comes the Sun,” about seeing the Beatles on The Ed Sullivan Show the first time they appeared on North American TV.
Help. Who needs it? In our post-modern, more self-oriented world, independence has been ingrained in us. And I agree, it is important to be self-sufficient. But personally, I think that independence in extreme, combined with too much living in one’s head, leads to isolation, which feeds itself, and that’s not healthy. And don’t get me wrong… as a strongly introverted person, I find solitude helps me to keep grounded and less depleted. And, maybe ironically, I love a party, though find that kind of gathering can be quite draining. I just need to know how much I can absorb, then maybe take a walk or break for a one-on-one conversation and return, or stay at the party for a shorter time.
It’s essential to be with people… a fact that became blatantly obvious in the lockdown. We had to — and did — find creative ways to gather in community, and some of those gatherings (like those on Zoom) have brought us lasting friendships… distant, yet close. It’s a strange world.
We all need help sometimes, though. The trick is knowing when we need help, being confident enough to ask for it, and humble enough to receive it. So many people want to help. Have you ever had a problem, and a stranger noticed, came up, and asked if they could help? Me too! It’s the best part of our society when that happens — from both perspectives, though. We both win when we engage in a helper/recipient interaction.
We all have heard the old saying, “’Tis better to give than receive,” and that’s really quite telling. We have been taught not to receive. It can be a challenge to receive something from others… traits like pride and stubbornness get in the way.
“When I was younger, so much younger than today
I never needed anybody’s help in any way
(Now) But now these days are gone (These days are gone) and I’m not so self-assured
(And now I find) Now I find I’ve changed my mind, I’ve opened up the doors”
(from “Help,” by John Lennon, Paul McCartney)
Let’s all “open up the doors,” to those who need us and those who want to help us, shall we? Either way, it makes us more human.
Now you know a little about why this is my song of the day for today. Thanks for joining me here, and please enjoy. (And if you enjoyed this post, please click the “like” button or, better yet, leave a comment with your thoughts — I’d love to hear from you!)
This is the video for the song from The Beatles’ official YouTube channel. Please remember to click on “thumbs-up” on the video if you appreciated the artists’ work.