“Tears stream down your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face and I…
Tears stream down your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face and I…”
(from “Fix You,” by Chris Martin, Jonny Buckland, Guy Berryman, Will Champion.
Full, unofficial lyrics are available at AZLyrics.com.)
Today, Sweety and I joined with friends and strangers on a Zoom call. We shared stories, thoughts, prayers, photos, music and blessings in tribute and celebration of a man I previously mentioned in my December 15, 2020 post on “Belong,” an R.E.M. song covered by the Australian band, Quivers.
My sweety and I had only met him last year, but he had a profound impact on us in the half-dozen conversations we had with him in a circle of friends. This man loved and nurtured his family. He created and directed addictions recovery programs in a long and distinguished career of serving others. He also led men’s retreats to help foster healthy masculinity. His work and passion touched many lives. He loved and had time for people, and my sweety and I felt that love in the few encounters we had with him, all of them on Zoom.
Recently I shared the playful “Life in Technicolor ii” by the British rock band, Coldplay. Today I thought of Coldplay’s emotive “Fix You” because some of the lyrics above speak to my sense of what the loss of this man means to those who believe he saved their lives. But he didn’t set out to fix people; from the stories I’ve heard, he encouraged people to accept and love themselves enough to overcome their problems, because they were worth that. He stuck with them. And he remains with them now.
I think the organizers intended for the meetup to go for about an hour and a half. More than 70 people were on at one time, and we started to say farewell nearly three hours into the call.
Some consider “Fix You” an anthem on how many men operate in relationships: always wanting to fix things. Coldplay lead singer, primary songwriter and front person Chris Martin is said to have written the song for his then-wife Gwyneth Paltrow during a difficult time in her life. Years ago, my sweety listened to this song a lot during a particularly challenging time in her work. I love the piece, as it evokes a sense of the healing and hope that comes from knowing that “lights will guide you home.” An optimism suffuses in the song’s ending, especially in the official music video’s stirring concert excerpt.
“Fix You” comes from X&Y, Coldplay’s third studio album, released in 2005.
Now you know a little about why this is my song of the day for today. Thanks for joining me here, and please enjoy.
Here’s the official music video from Coldplay’s YouTube channel. (I love how some of the “lights (that) will guide you home” are the bold, multi-coloured squares from the X&Y album cover art, projected onto a building at night in London England.)